Life Coach

What is a Life Coach?

A Life Coach is a person who counsels and encourages clients on matters having to do with careers or personal challenges. A Life Coach partners with a client to help them define and achieve a goal.

What Is Life Coaching and how will help you?

Life coaching is about empowering people to dream big, to stretch beyond their limits and to go for what their heart really desires. It’s discovering what will make you sing rather than speak and run rather than walk? It’s transformation, finding the things that will let you live a life of presence with commitment and passion rather than settling for the second best you? It helps navigating life’s transitions, so you attain the life you’ve been waiting for.

Life coaching is a synergistic relationship between an accredited life coach and a client designed to tap into the client’s full potential. Just as professional and Olympic athletes wouldn’t think of training without the added insight, objective perspective and enthusiastic support of an athletic coach.

Life coaching is a synergistic relationship between an accredited life coach and a client designed to tap into the client’s full potential. No professional or Olympic athletes would think of training without the added insight, objective perspective and enthusiastic support of an athletic coach. Not if they expect to win at the highest level. Life coaches focus on the present (where you are now) and the client’s goals for the future. We help people move forward and set personal and professional goals that will give them the life they really want.

What kinds of clients use a life coach and when do they call?

Most life coaching clients are healthy, loving, successful people who might be a bit stuck in their lives or simply want to make a big transformation and want the support of their own personal coach.

Clients include housewives, husbands, managers, administrators, entrepreneurs, and students. The individuals we partner with are ready for a breakthrough in their lives; they want to step into a life of choice and action that’s aligned with their goals, dreams, and values. They’re “thinking about” how life can be amazing, wonderful, and fulfilling, and most of all they are ready to make it happen.

What is relationship coaching?

Relationship coaching is a life coaching specialization that helps people find greater fulfillment in their personal relationships. A relationship coach can help you set relationship goals, understand your current partnership, thrive inside your marriage, grieve a lost loved one, or take your long-term romance to the next level.

It’s not necessary to work with both partners in a relationship. Coaching helps clients let go of their own painful thoughts, and create their own relationship vision. This means clients are able to enjoy a satisfying relationship even without their partner’s participation in the coaching process.

Relationship coaches also work with people who are not yet in a relationship. We will work with singles who have a history of troubled relationships, who have difficulty knowing what they want in a relationship, or just want to stay on track with their plan to find a deeper connection with someone. Relationship coaches, just like life coaches, take healthy people and make them high performing.

What Coaching is not!

A coach is not a consultant who “provides expert advice,” but rather an expert who provides the framework, questions, exercises, and accountability for you to make the positive breakthroughs and transformations you want out of life. And if you don’t know what those are, a great coach will help you discover them.

Life coaching is not therapy. Coaches don’t work on past-based issues or traumas. Life coaches are not psychologists or psychotherapists. If you start the process of life coaching and have not resolved a past issue, then it is very likely you will be referred to work with a therapist to resolve the issue. It is very common for unresolved traumas to stop us from getting what we want in our lives.

What does life coaching focus on?

Life coaching focuses on an individual’s entire life as it relates to goal setting, outcome creation, and transformation. Coaching assumes that individuals are capable of generating their own solutions, while the coach provides a supportive, discovery-based framework. While positive emotions are typically the natural outcome of great coaching, the primary focus is on creating strategies for transforming your work or personal life.

Additionally, the major emphasis in coaching is on action, accountability, and follow–through; coaching supports personal growth, professional growth, and development based on individually-initiated transformation. Since coaching is forward moving and future-focused, it is for self-actualized people who seek success in their life and choose to add that extra asset and assistance in order to move forward to effect the transformations they want in life.

Why should you consult a life coach and why do your dreams matter?

Coaching is a giant sandbox where we get to explore how your dreams become attainable goals and discover, together, a sense of purpose and direction for you to explore. Sometimes we need clarity; sometimes we need accountability and sometimes we need both.

During the initial interview, I use an “Initial Interview Discovery Packet” that asks essential questions about who you are and what you want out of life. The poet Mary Oliver said, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” That’s what life coaching is – finding out what makes you feel alive and inspired and making it happen. If you don’t risk going for your dreams, how will you ever know you can attain them?

What other roles does a life coach fulfill?

A life coach wears many hats, as a facilitator, advocate, friend, navigator, partner, sometimes consultant, but it’s a dramatically different relationship from other improvement processes; in coaching, you share that power. People expect us to tell them what to do. In reality, what coaches do is prompt you to tell us what you want to do. It’s the synergy in the relationship that creates an opportunity for breakthroughs and transformation.



Coaching vs. Therapy

The table below shows a quick side-by-side comparison of Coaching vs. Therapy

 

Coaching Therapy
Client is emotionally and psychologically healthy Client is emotionally unwell and in needs healing
Focuses on the present and future Focuses on dealing with the past
Driven by goals and taking action Driven by unresolved issues and feelings
Works toward a higher level of functioning Works to achieve understanding and emotional healing
Results-based and focuses on exploring solutions Explores the root of problems and offers explanation
Asks, “Where would you like to be and how can you get there?” Asks, “How did that make you feel?”
Acts on information Absorbs information
Done over the phone, internet or in person Done in an office setting
Coach and client collaborate on solutions Therapist is the ‘expert’
Contact between sessions expected (accountability and wins) Contact between sessions for crisis and difficulties only



POSSIBILITY | STRUCTURE | COMMITMENT

My coaching clients are generally healthy, content, successful people who are ready to accelerate their personal growth and improve their love life and want the support of a Life Coach that specializes in these areas. Coaching can help you reach your goals because we recognize areas or situations in which we are not quite as powerful or free as we would like to be.

Whether in a relationship with our partner, family, co-workers, food, or personal health, to name a few—the disruptions to the flow of our lives, our “breakdowns,” are surrounded by a personal narrative. “Our story,” is a limiting picture of what we believe about ourselves, what we know about the world, and what we think is possible.

Together, we’ll take a good look and listen to what you already know of yourself. Without judgment, but with compassion and a fierce commitment, we’ll develop new ways of relating to yourself, your partner and the world around you. I coach people from all walks of life and relationship circumstances; women and men who realize their self-responsibility and want to create exactly the life and relationship they want.

This is not therapy, this is coaching, see Coaching vs. Therapy. As with any sport or skill, it takes a certain amount of time to get good at recognizing and transforming misalignment into a smooth productive life and relationship flow. In our process, you will become both the practitioner of your new behavior as well as the observer, constantly learning about yourself and re-evaluating your progress. It’s from this authentic foundation, that you will achieve what you set out to do and create step by step, the life you were meant to live. Together we will transform personal conflict and misalignment into collaboration, appreciation, and forward progress. Knowing who we truly are is the first step in creating the life we want to live. I believe each of us deserves nothing less.